Communication
All good relationships, whether sexual or not, require open and honest communication where feelings, needs and desires can be expressed in a respectful manner. Trust is the foundation of good communication and of a relationship.
Sexual relationships can vary greatly depending on the person’s preferences, values and boundaries. For many, the sexual relationship is a close, deep and emotionally charged relationship where there is openness and vulnerability between each other. Many times it can be challenging to communicate about one’s vulnerability, needs and desires where both lack of communication and trust often leads to frustration and dissatisfaction in the relationship.
Each individual has their own sexual preferences and desires, and when they do not match their partner’s preferences and desires, conflicts or a feeling of not being sexually compatible with each other can arise. A very common challenge is when one partner has more desire than the other. When it is difficult to communicate and manage the different levels of desire in the relationship, it easily leads to feelings such as frustration, anger, inadequacy and distancing. Another common challenge is when partners have different desires for sexual practices, which can also be difficult to communicate about, which can then lead to one partner agreeing to sexual practices that they do not want to practice, or to the other partner feeling frustrated.
Sex stirs up emotions. When negative emotions such as guilt, shame, frustration, and anger are stirred up, it is important that these feelings are communicated in the relationship and both partners find a common solution to maintain a healthy sexual relationship.
Sexual problems such as erection, desire, pain can affect self-confidence and be an obstacle to intimacy. Communicating about what affects self-confidence is very difficult for many.
Challenges are common in most relationships. Communication is often the key to being able to handle challenges together, and then also strengthen the relationship.
For many, communication is the most difficult aspect of a relationship. Lack of communication easily leads to conflict and impacts the climate and sustainability of the relationship.
How can we help you!
Many people find it difficult to talk about sex as it is a private topic that is not usually discussed. Sexuality can also bring up negative feelings such as guilt and shame for some, which makes it even more difficult to talk about their sexuality.
Our sexologists have many years of experience in conversations and counseling about sexuality. Our experience is your security!
During the first conversation, the sexologist will ask you, or you if you choose couples counseling, questions to gain an understanding of the problems you are experiencing and how they affect you. The sexologist will listen carefully and empathetically to what you share and ask follow-up questions to gain a deeper understanding of your experiences, feelings and problems. Together you will discuss possible explanations for the sexual problems and the sexologist will give you advice and tools. The sexologist may also suggest more counseling sessions.
You do not need to prepare for your digital visit.
Definitions sexual relations
Sexual relationships can look different. The relationship’s shared preferences, values, and boundaries are the significant factors in how the relationship is defined:
Monogamous relationship : Two people have a sexual relationship exclusively with each other. They are committed to the relationship with long-term goals.
Open relationship : Two people have a sexual relationship where one or both parties are allowed to have sexual relations with other people. There are usually clear agreed-upon rules and boundaries.
Polyamorous relationship : Multiple people are involved in a sexual relationship at the same time and with full consent from all involved.
Casual relationship : Short-term sexual relationship.
Friendship with benefits : Two friends choose to include sex in their relationship without having a romantic commitment.
Asexual relationship : The relationship lacks interest in sex or attraction to sex. They may still have intimacy in the form of closeness.
There are many more definitions of relationships where the common thing is that it is the relationship’s preferences, values, and boundaries that set the framework for how the relationship behaves.
How can we help you!
Many people find it difficult to talk about sex as it is a private topic that is not usually discussed. Sexuality can also bring up negative feelings such as guilt and shame for some, which makes it even more difficult to talk about their sexuality.
Our sexologists have many years of experience in conversations and counseling about sexuality. Our experience is your security!
During the first conversation, the sexologist will ask you questions to gain an understanding of the problems you are experiencing and how they affect you. The sexologist will listen carefully and empathetically to what you share and ask follow-up questions to gain a deeper understanding of your experiences, feelings and problems. Together you will discuss possible explanations for the sexual problems and where the sexologist will give you advice and tools. The sexologist may also suggest more counseling sessions.
You don’t need to prepare for your digital visit.