Sexual orientation & identity

Sexual identity and gender identity

Sexual identity is about how you understand and describe your sexuality. Gender identity is about your sense of your own gender. These are different parts of who you are, and you may have questions about either or both.

A cisgender person’s gender identity corresponds with the sex they were assigned at birth. A transgender person’s gender identity differs from the sex they were assigned at birth. Some people describe themselves as non-binary. The words you use to describe yourself are yours to choose.

Sexual orientation

Sexual orientation describes patterns of sexual attraction. People may describe their orientation as heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, asexual or in other ways. Romantic and sexual attraction do not always coincide, and some people experience little or no sexual attraction. You do not have to choose a label.

For some people, being open about their identity or orientation feels natural. For others, sharing this part of themselves can be difficult. Expectations and concerns about other people’s reactions can affect when, how and whether you want to tell others. Exploring your feelings and finding words that fit can be a personal process, at your own pace.

How can we help you?

Talking about sexuality can feel difficult, especially if it brings up feelings of guilt, shame or uncertainty. You can talk with us about questions concerning your sexual orientation, identity, relationships or how to share your feelings with others.

Our sexologists have many years of experience in conversations and counselling about sexuality.

During your first session, the sexologist will ask about your situation, your experiences and how they affect you. They will listen carefully and ask follow-up questions to understand what matters to you. Together, you can explore your questions and discuss advice, tools and whether further sessions would be helpful.

You do not need to prepare for your online appointment.